Why we actually do need feminism

Why we don't need feminism
So this week I wanted to do something a little bit different. Recently I have been seeing a lot of these anti-feminist blogs and I just wanted to share a few things about why this makes my skin crawl.

So here's the thing, feminism has been shown in a horrible light for the past several decades. Some women have taken on feminism and basically gone way overboard. They have created political lesbianism so to speak. They are women who disagree with patriarchal values and believe that the only way to dissolve these values is to change the system altogether. However, these are not true feminists and this is where people find misunderstandings.

The point is, feminism is not a giant male hate group. In fact, we are just the opposite. The definition of feminism is to create EQUALITY for EVERYONE. Just because women are now allowed to vote doesn't mean that we are truly equal. We need to look at the world through a critical lens. We need to form educated opinions.

I think for the good of everyone we need to get behind this movement. We need to stop oppression. Not just for women but for men as well and I strongly believe that feminism is the answer to these societal woes. The truth is, we are not all equal, but we can change it and I have the confidence that we will.

The Strength to Continue On

With the craziest part of the semester underway, I have decided to step away from my usual type of blog post to give myself and hopefully all of you some hope and strength to carry on to the end of this semester. Sometimes I find myself doubting that there will be an end to all of the madness of everyday life. My mom always says that college is like drinking from a firehouse. Although, it is a very odd simile to say the least, it has started to take on new shape and new meaning as the days go on. College is a completely different experience. We have thousands of assignments thrown at us, essays to write, problems to practice, lab reports to complete and thanks to my bad luck (I'm sure I'm not the only one with this issue) they always seem to be due on the same day. Then on top of all of that as if we weren't stressed already there are exams every week. I can honestly say that there are weeks were I feel as though I am treading in all of the work I have to do, with my head barely above it all of course. But the thing is, in the moment it is so hard to forget that these little details are not really what's important. What's important is the fact that we are here to learn. We are here to create a database of knowledge in order to go on to do bigger and better things. The truth is, that B on the test you got last week is not the end all be all. We have to begin to take college on not as a competition to earn the highest grade, but a competition with ourselves to work the hardest that we can and learn as much as we can from this amazing experience. Not everyone has this opportunity, and I don't say that to make you or myself crazy, but it's important to keep in mind. Knowledge is the most powerful weapon, we just need to learn how to acquire it. Just remember, knowledge is not measured by your GPA, its measure by the effort that you put into it.

The Value of Family

Today, due to some of the events in my life that have taken this place this week, I really feel the need to talk about family and how important it is to not take your family for granted. The thing is, growing up in a small suburb on the outskirts of Pittsburgh, I never would have thought that I would meet teenagers struggling through such difficult times, most commonly issues within their families. I have spent so much time thinking about how lucky I truly am that I have grown up in such a warm and loving home. However, I can not say that for most of my friends. I have spent a lot of time pondering why I have had such luck. Why did my best friend need to struggle under the weight of her family's issues when I had such an amazing and loving family that supported me through my most difficult friends. It wasn't until recently that I realized that I could change anything that my friends were experiencing. No good deed would ever fix the troubles that I have seen a lot of people face. However, through a lot of soul-searching I realized that there were only two things that I could really do, I can support my friends to help them through their hard times and not ever take what I have for granted because the truth is, not everyone has what I have, and more likely than not, not everyone has what you have either.

The truth is, no one lives a perfect life. No one has the perfect family. We all have obstacles that we have to overcome. For instance, my mother has been sick with a neurological disease since before I was born. I have watched all of her triumphs and failures and after a while it becomes truly difficult to watch your parent's physical state decline so rapidly. I watch her struggle through many everyday things, but the amazing part is, she has never once lost hope. She really is the most inspiring woman I have ever met and I love her more than any words could actually describe. With such an aggressive disease wreaking havoc on her neurological system, she has quite a lot of trouble completely seemingly menial tasks. So from a very young age, I helped around the house and did some things that many kids my age would never even think of doing. However, I never examined the differences and this is the key. In fact, I think I began to value my family more than many of my peers did because I realized that we needed to support each other to get through the hard times. And so I can tell you all: everyone goes through dark periods in their lives. Life is hard and often times cruel, but we are all given a really amazing gift in this life and that gift is family and they should never be taken for granted. 

Modern clichés: the downfall of originality

There is no doubt that we are drowning in a world of modern clichés. There is a cliché about just about everything you can think of and the truly terrifying truth of this is the fact that many clichés are really harmful to the way society functions and most people don't even realized that they exist. So for this reason, they are almost impossible to evade. People no longer ask questions, no longer inquire about why something is the way it is and I firmly believe that we need to resurrect the curiosity in society. We need to encourage originality in order to find happiness ourselves, but also for the good of society.


To give you all an explanation of what clichés really are I will turn to the dictionary definition of the word cliché. According to google (clearly the most reliable place for education on almost any topic) the definition of cliché is "a phrase or opinion that is overused and betrays a lack of original thought". Unfortunately our world is full of just that, unoriginal ideas. Naturally as humans we want to conform, we want to fit into a specific group in order to label ourselves as something and to find this group we must give a part of ourselves because let's face it, no one is exactly alike. The problem with not encouraging people to unique can be seen in many different forms. People conform to ideas about love, assuming that everyone must feel a very specifically defined emotion in order to consider something love. We conform to ideas about beauty, assuming that all women should either be a size 00 or as of lately, a women with a size 00 waist but a huge tush. Whatever the cliché may be, you can pretty much assume that it is harmful to those with the intention of fitting it perfectly because all humans are different - I know you've heard this 100000 times, but it might be the truest statement ever said.

We need to break through the cage that these clichés have created and accept ourselves as who we are as human beings. I know for a fact that this is not an easy endeavor. Even though, I absolutely hate clichés, I also find myself hopelessly trying to fit them. Until I really began to love and respect myself and understand that my quirks are what make me, me did I realize that I didn't need to fit some prototype of who I should be. So I challenge you all to break free from these overly used ideas about what or who we should be and we need to get on with enjoying life, a life without barriers.

The truth about love

An epidemic has been sweeping the nation lately, an epidemic that has begun to completely deplete any sort of meaning from the word "love". And the saddest part is that none of us even notice it. Instead, we are actively encouraging and feeding this phenomenon. We are constantly being socialized through all facets of the media that love is an unconscious choice, but also something that we invariably need in order to flourish in life. This is extremely true about women of today. We get so caught up in the constant search for the "perfect" guy that we allow the true meaning of love and happiness to slip between our finger tips.

Once again, I speak from a place of understanding in saying all of these things. I spent almost all of my high school years either in worthless, harmful relationships that I assumed were making me happy or pursing those worthless, harmful relationships because I had come to believe that somehow my self worth was connected to the attention I got from guys. I look back on these moments of my life with tears in my eyes. I look back and wish that I would have not fallen into the trap of harmful social norms that once completely ruled over me. I wish that instead of looking for happiness in others I would have looked for happiness within myself. However, I don't want to sketch my life as a sob story and I certainly don't feel as if dwelling in the past will help you in the future, but I did learn some extremely valuable lessons from some of these darker moments and thats what I want to share with you all.

I feel as though I mention this in almost every one of my posts and there is good reason for it. It is so extremely important to learn to love yourself. Although, this concept seems kind of odd, to really love and respect someone else, you truly do have to love and respect yourself. A lot of times we settle for someone who doesn't meet our standards. We settle for the love we think we deserve, but I'm telling you all right now that every single one of us deserves someone amazing. So I urge you all to first, love yourself, second, determine your standards (don't be afraid to set them high) and find people that meet those standards, and lastly don't stalk love, don't obsess over it and I promise you that your perfect partner will come along (trust me, I know from experience).