The truth about love

An epidemic has been sweeping the nation lately, an epidemic that has begun to completely deplete any sort of meaning from the word "love". And the saddest part is that none of us even notice it. Instead, we are actively encouraging and feeding this phenomenon. We are constantly being socialized through all facets of the media that love is an unconscious choice, but also something that we invariably need in order to flourish in life. This is extremely true about women of today. We get so caught up in the constant search for the "perfect" guy that we allow the true meaning of love and happiness to slip between our finger tips.

Once again, I speak from a place of understanding in saying all of these things. I spent almost all of my high school years either in worthless, harmful relationships that I assumed were making me happy or pursing those worthless, harmful relationships because I had come to believe that somehow my self worth was connected to the attention I got from guys. I look back on these moments of my life with tears in my eyes. I look back and wish that I would have not fallen into the trap of harmful social norms that once completely ruled over me. I wish that instead of looking for happiness in others I would have looked for happiness within myself. However, I don't want to sketch my life as a sob story and I certainly don't feel as if dwelling in the past will help you in the future, but I did learn some extremely valuable lessons from some of these darker moments and thats what I want to share with you all.

I feel as though I mention this in almost every one of my posts and there is good reason for it. It is so extremely important to learn to love yourself. Although, this concept seems kind of odd, to really love and respect someone else, you truly do have to love and respect yourself. A lot of times we settle for someone who doesn't meet our standards. We settle for the love we think we deserve, but I'm telling you all right now that every single one of us deserves someone amazing. So I urge you all to first, love yourself, second, determine your standards (don't be afraid to set them high) and find people that meet those standards, and lastly don't stalk love, don't obsess over it and I promise you that your perfect partner will come along (trust me, I know from experience).